Relationship

1. Never feel guilty about not able to cook But do worry about not leading a healthy life style.

2. Never feel guilty about earning more than him. But do worry about not having time for each other.

3. Never feel guilty about not having children But do worry about not making an informed decision.

4. Never feel guilty about not following his life principle. But do worry about biasing the children.

5. Never feel guilty about keeping your surname. But do worry about not understanding the implications of being couple.

6. Never feel guilty about walking out of your marriage or partnership. But do worry about making snap judgments about your partner.

7. Never feel guilty about saying no to sex But do worry about allowing days to turn into months and months to turn into problem.

Why Guys Love Girls:)

Here are a few reasons why guys like girls:

1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo

2. The way their heads always find the right spot on your shoulder

3. How cute they look when they sleep

4. The ease in which they fit into your arms

5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world

6. How cute they are when they eat

7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while

8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside

9. The way they look good no matter what they wear

10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth

11. How cute they are when they argue

12. The way her hand always finds yours

13. The way they smile

14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight

15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....

16. The way they kiss when you do something nice for them

17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you"

18. Actually ... Just the way they kiss you...

19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry

20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly

21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt

22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt. (even though we don't admit it)!

23. The way they say "I miss you"

24. The way you miss them

25. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.....

Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them ... It matters not. Because once in your life,Whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice.It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.

Resolving Conflicts With Best Friends

Fighting with friends is tough all around. We often say things we don't mean and feelings get hurt. Occasionally, no one wants to admit they were wrong and no one wants to apologize; it seems as though the situation is beyond repair. There are many ways to resolve conflicts with friends. Here are some things you can do to start down the road to conflict resolution.

Step 1 Calm down. No one thinks rationally when emotionally worked up. Give yourself time to calm down before even thinking of the subject of the conflict again.

Step 2 Give each other respect. Without first respecting your friend, it is unlikely that the conflict will be resolved amicably.

Step 3 Give each other space. When the conflict has become too heated, walk away.

Step 4 Give each other time. Time to cool off will help all parties involved think things over in a rational manner.

Step 5 Respect each other's space and time. Everybody's different. Your friend may need a week before he is ready to resolve the conflict and you may need only a day. Give him the time he needs.

Step 6 Communicate. Not talking only makes matters worse. Periodically contact your friend to let her know that you still care about her.

Step 7 Listen well. Listen intently and focus on his point of view with an open mind.

Step 8 Choose your words wisely. Avoid accusatory phrases like "you never," "you always" or "why would you."

Step 9 Leave out the "but." When your friend asks if you accept his apology don't say "yes, but..." It's a conditional acceptance and can lead to more hurt feelings. The same goes for "I understand, but.."

Step 10 Let it go. If you can't find common ground, agree to disagree and let it go. Nothing good will come out of the conflict if you don't.

When A Girl..

When a GIRL is quiet ... millions of things are running in her mind.. 

When a GIRL is not arguing ... she is thinking deeply. 

When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions ... she is wondering how long you will be around. 

When a GIRL answers ' I'm fine ' after a few seconds ... she is not at all fine. 

When a GIRL stares at you she is wondering why you are lying. 

When a GIRL lays on your chest .. she is wishing for you to be hers forever. 

When a GIRL wants to see you everyday... she wants to be pampered. 

When a GIRL says ' I love you ' .. she means it. 

When a GIRL says ' I miss you ' .... no one in this world can miss you more than that. 

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person .... 

Find a guy .. who calls you beautiful instead of hot. 

who calls you back when you hang up on him. 

who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who ... kisses your forehead. 

Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats. 

Who holds your hand in front of his friends. 

Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. 

Who turns to his friends and says, ' That's her!! '

These are some of the romantic countries in the world.

H.O.L.L.A.N.D. - Hope Our Love Lasts And Never Dies.

I.T.A.L.Y. - I Trust And Love You.

L.I.B.Y.A. - Love Is Beautiful; You Also.

F.R.A.N.C.E. - Friendships Remain And Never Can End.

C.H.I.N.A. - Come Here.. I Need Affection.

B.U.R.M.A. - Between Us, Remember Me Always.

N.E.P.A.L. - Never Ever Part As Lovers.

I.N.D.I.A. - I Nearly Died In Adoration.

K.E.N.Y.A. - Keep Everything Nice, Yet Arousing.

C.A.N.A.D.A. - Cute And Naughty Action that Developed into Attraction.

K.O.R.E.A. - Keep Optimistic Regardless of Every Adversity.

E.G.Y.P.T. - Everything's Great, You Pretty Thing!

M.A.N.I.L.A. - May All Nights Inspire Love Always.

T.H.A.I.L.A.N.D - Totally Happy. Always In Love And Never Dull.

10 Worst Way To Break Up

A breakup is a serious, earth-shattering moment that in most cases leads to a long road of emotional recovery.

The 10 Worst Ways to Break Up With Someone

10. ON VACATION: Who would you most likely want to be stuck on a deserted island with? Not someone who's just told you "it's not working out," we're quite sure. Not only have you now wasted your time and money, but you can't leave the situation easily without added plane fares and stress. If this happens to you, break away and turn your trip into a rejuvenating self-improvement retreat... you'll need it.

9. IN A TEXT MESSAGE: Ah, the text. The modern-day version of the Post-It. Too wussy to do it in person? Text away, wuss.

8. ON FACEBOOK: Nothing like logging on to find your loved one tagged in a compromising photo with a complete stranger...to you, at least. Why this is called the "World Wide Web" and some people can't figure out how they got busted is beyond us. Besides, it's way too trendy these days - be original, people!

7. AROUND THE FAMILY: Don't make it a family affair - you'll seriously regret it. Whether at a sibling's wedding (see #6), a family vacation (see #10), or meeting the family for the first time (really!?), this one is clearly ridden with minefields that will lead to nothing but trouble. If this happens to you, at least you've got your "people" nearby to protect you, support you, and promptly kick your brand-new-ex to the curb.

6. AT A WEDDING: The wedding. The defining moment for any couple. The pinnacle of celebrating relationships and love. The day they'll remember as the best day of their lives. Forever. Guess the pressure got to you, huh?

5. AT YOUR "SPECIAL PLACE": That restaurant where we had our first date...the bar where you told me you loved me...the bench in the park where we'd sit every Sunday... Why on earth would anyone think this is a good idea? Let the special place stay special. Just like there are other fish in the sea, there are other places in the whole world. If they can't find another place, you should definitely find another fish.

4. IN BED: Come again? Talk about ruining the mood. At least wait until you're clothed. This one is so embarrassing that we're having visions of the recurring dream where you're on stage in front of everyone you know in nothing but your underwear. Except you're not even wearing underwear.

3. ON VALENTINE'S DAY: There are 365 days in the year, and ONE dedicated to celebrating love. It's not like you can't claim you didn't "know" it was Valentine's Day - the stores, the ads, the cards have been in your face for weeks. Pick another day. It's that simple. Don't ruin this day forever for someone, unless you're really in need of some bad karma. (New Year's Eve and Birthdays received honorable mentions.)

2. BY DOING NOTHING: It was tough not giving this the Number 1 honor, and we're still not sure. Being forced to figure something out by yourself is sometimes the hardest and most humiliating thing of all. Coming home to find your love gone, with no note, no calls, no anything may just be the worst way to handle a breakup. It is definitely the WIMPIEST. Just remember that. You do this, you are weak.

1. BY CHEATING: Sadly, this is the most common response we received - and the stories ran the gamut, from the one-night-stand, to the ongoing affair, to the ongoing affair that you only found out about via "the new person," to the unspeakable announcement that your boyfriend or girlfriend is engaged to someone else (WHAT?!?). To these we simply say, come ON. Just break it off before you cheat. You won't hurt our feelings, we promise.The bottom line to all of this? If this happened to you, we can 100% guarantee that you are better off without this person in your life. If THIS is the way they think is appropriate to end a relationship, imagine how they would handle life's other challenges. Not well, we're guessing. Time for you to bounce back and move forward to someone who deserves you and your love.

It tears me up deep inside to see you like that

You're only asking for someone to be by your side when it gets dark, when it gets cold

Searching for stability

I told you times and times before

I could have given the world to you, I could have given my life for you

But you didn't ask me to, you didn't want me to

You're the one to blame, you said no to all this

I see where it has taken you to…

and I'm sorry boy but you deserve it all…

p/s:i've been your heaven and now i'll be your hell,Al Fikri Roslan.

It will stay the same like we used to

I can see the way it's all goona go down

Feels so wrong to be right

The same pattern going and going

Wish it would be diffrent now

Wish I could rewind from the start

But I just can't

There you are…

Standing still…Breathing still…Sleeping stil…

The only thing I can do is to watch you

You look so peaceful

Wish I could care less

But here I am, scared like hell

Writing these stupid words

Waiting for time to come and grab you away from me…

How soon?…

We'll see

In Another Lifetime

In another lifetime, I was yours.

In another lifetime, we made stupid promises.

I was a fool, I guess we both were.

It's been over a year now, over a year now that you've stole my innocence.

A few months ago, we were in love head over heels… In fact, I was.

Feels like another lifetime. 

Sometimes I wonder it you were true, If you believed all those things you said.

We could have been history,

We could have shown all the skepticals what love was all about.Along the way,you never gave up.

It's been a few months now and I still remember how it felt.I love you and always be.

I hope things goes smoothly,i take your words now..that you said that you will love me,i suddenly smile and believe what you said..

To trust or Not to trust

5 letter word, so easy to say but to actually trust someone is so much harder. It takes ages to build but only takes a second to destroy. And now people I used to trust try to merge back into my life (or what's left of it). What should I do? Let her back and risk to lose everything again once things get a little difficult? Reject her and stay  on my own? Could I trust her ever again? Will I miss out on a life I once had? Can I count on her to get me through hard time knowing they've already failed last time? Will I ever be able to call her ''Friends'' again?

Apa yang harus aku lakukan

untuk membuat kau mencintaiku

segala upaya telah ku lakukan untukmu

apa yang harus aku lakukan

untuk membuat kau menyayangiku

inilah aku yang memilih kau untukku

Kerna aku mencintaimu 

dan hatiku hanya untukmu

tak akan menyerah

dan takkan berhenti mencintaimu

ku berjuang dalam hidupku

untuk selalu memilikimu

seumur hidupku setulus hatiku

                 HANYA UNTUKMU

p/s: i love you:)

In Memory of Junko Furuta : The Girl Who Got Tortured of 44 Days!

This is one of the most notorious and worst cases of torture murder ever recorded in history. It is also one of the most horrifying and heartbreaking.

Exactly twenty years ago, a sixteen year-old girl was going through the most unimaginable pain, waiting for the endless suffering she was going through to end. For 44 days, nobody helped her.

Her killers are now free men. Justice has never been served, not even after 20 years.

Once you hear the story, it is not easily forgotten. Her 44 days of suffering will forever be known.

DAY 1: November 22, 1988:

Kidnapped
Kept captive in house, and posed as one of boy’s girlfriend
Raped (over 400 times in total)
Forced to call her parents and tell them she had run away
Starved and malnutritioned
Fed cockroaches to eat and urine to drink
Forced to masturbate
Forced to strip in front of others
Burned with cigarette lighters
Foreign objects inserted into her vagina/anus

DAY 11: December 1, 1988:

Severely beat up countless times
Face held against concrete ground and jumped on
Hands tied to ceiling and body used as a punching bag
Nose filled with so much blood that she can only breath through her mouth
Dumbbells dropped onto her stomach
Vomited when tried to drink water (her stomach couldn’t accept it)
Tried to escape and punished by cigarette burning on arms
Flammable liquid poured on her feet and legs, then lit on fire
Bottle inserted into her anus, causing injury

DAY 20: December10, 1989:

Unable to walk properly due to severe leg burns

Beat with bamboo sticks
Fireworks inserted into anus and lit
Hands smashed by weights and fingernails cracked
Beaten with golf club
Cigarettes inserted into vagina
Beaten with iron rods repeatedly
Winter; forced outside to sleep in balcony
Skewers of grilled chicken inserted into her vagina and anus, causing bleeding

DAY 30:

Hot wax dripped onto face
Eyelids burned by cigarette lighter
Stabbed with sewing needles in chest area
Left nipple cut and destroyed with pliers
Hot light bulb inserted into her vagina
Heavy bleeding from vagina due to scissors insertion
Unable to urinate properly
Injuries were so severe that it took over an hour for her to crawl downstairs and use the bathroom
Eardrums severely damaged
Extreme reduced brain size

DAY 40:

Begged her torturers to “kill her and get it over with”

January 1, 1989:

Junko greets the New Years Day alone
Body mutilated
Unable to move from the ground

DAY 44: January 4, 1989:

The four boys beat her mutilated body with an iron barbell, using a loss at the game of Mah-jongg as a pretext. She is profusely bleeding from her mouth and nose. They put a candle’s flame to her face and eyes.

Then, lighter fluid was poured onto her legs, arms, face and stomach, and then lit on fire. This final torture lasted for a time of two hours.

Junko Furuta died later that day, in pain and alone. Nothing could compare 44 days of suffering she had to go through.

When her mother heard the news and details of what had happened to her daughter, she fainted. She had to undergo a psychiatric outpatient treatment . Imagine her endless pain.

Her killers are now free men. Justice was never served, not even after 20 years.
They deserve a punishment much greater than they had put upon Furuta, for putting an innocent girl through the most unbearable suffering.

This story from 1989 is true. Please spread her story around. Everyone should know about the existence of Junko Furuta’s unimaginable and incomprehensible suffering, and this is why this group has been made.

Invite your friends. Never let her story be forgotten. If this story changes the life of at least one person then it has been worth it.

Is it true or not

I dont know what im doing.I dont know whether its a right thing or not.I dont know whether loving you is a correct thing for me to do.I really AM dont know.Someone..show me the correct path for me to walk through,Im lost in my own desires.We've been best friend since before and should we keep it that way or take a step ahead?Im sorry for letting you love me and im sorry to myself for cannot stop from loving you.Should i leave you behind?Should i just walk away from you?Should i explain to you.Can you see now? we're in love,and because of that we also start to fight.I hate fighting.I really do.we never even fight before when we were best friend.But now,take a look at our situation.we are mad in love with each other but can you see on the other side? that we starting to fight and argue for stupid things.Should i face it or back off from all this thing?Should i tell you that we should remain Best Friend like before or face this challenge and the possible for losing you forever?I cant possibly breaks your heart again because i know how much you love me.I know it and i can see it how afraid you are of losing me.But,i dont  want to argue with you,its freaking weird and it never happen between us before.I agreed about one saying,Once we're in love,we must face alot of possiblities.Im Sorry..

 I make mistakes.Thats what i do.I speak without thinking.I act without knowing.I drink so much i can barely walk.I'm a fantastic lover though
And an amazing friend.God knows i mean well.God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change.The courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference.


The minute you think of giving up,think the reason why you held so long.Fooled by my own desires,i twist my fate just to feel you.But you turn me towards the light.And you're one with me.Will you run with me?

You can close your eyes to the things you dont wanna see.But you cant close your heart to the things you dont wanna feel.Its not up to me anymore,if you want me in your life,you'll find a way to put me there.Who are you to judge the life i live in?I know im not perfect and i dont live to be.But before you start pointing your fingers,make sure your hands are clean.

Maybe its not always about trying to fix something broken.

Maybe its about starting over and creating something better.

I should never let my past life haunts me.

Maybe i should learn to accept something that is Best for me from now on.

Leaving whats broken is better than letting myself hurts trying to fix it.

i keep smiling all day and yeah:) it really helps my stressed go away.

Spirit of Love

we can only have the feelings inside our heart but we can never show it to each other

Undescribable

feelings that i felt when i want to frget about things that is sweet that just happen fr awhile is damn freaking hard.It just happen without me knowing that i already fall for you.I didnt even know that falling in love for you is something that is wrong and unacceptable.I dont know why but it is wrong.It is wrong for me to love someone that their passed life still haunting and yearning.I also didnt noticed that you also fall for me quietly and secretly.You know what i felt? I felt im the only girl in the world *lagu rihanna:) haha.Thank You for making me Happy & Felt Loved by someone.Especially someone like you that i never thought that i would fall for.It is something that i felt a year ago and Thank You for making me Feel that feelings onced more.BUT,you know we can't continue having this feelings.you know we can't be together.Its not that i dont love you.its just that It Is Hard for Us To Be Together.I don't want people around you and me hurts for our relationships.i just cant possibly take you just like that.I know that you love me alot perhaps more than i love you BUT i am scared if i hurt you.i am scared if i cant love you and mybe i would cheated on you.I just can't take care of something that is so precious in my life.I am scared.I dont want to be Jual Ikan.when you said that i already forget you,NO! its not true,its not like what you think.If i could just say that I never forget about you and wont stop loving you.It is hard for me.To be mean to someone that really loves you alot.I cant hurt someone that Loves You more than i do.eventhough she is your passed life,her heart and feelings never change towards you.Trust Me,she can make you happy onced again.more happy than ever.I cant promise you that i would make you happy.2 Days not texting you already make me half crazy and i dont know what to do.Whether im doing the right thing or not.should i just let you go?I dont even know.I am Speechless.I just wanted you to be happy.I know you loved me so much,you cant forget me and all.But,i just cant continue it anymore.Why dont we just forget about all this and be friends like before.Isn't it better that way.I Am Sorry For Making You Fall For Me.She really loves you more and more than i love you.I just want you to give her one last chance so she can be the best to love you once more.Just forget about your feelings towards me and go to her.It is better.It is also hard for me to make this type of decisions.I know you wouldn't do as i say,you wouldn't go to her but please just for me,as you loved me please give her one last chance to love you again like before.It is what i want.she knows you better than i do.This feelings that we are having can be fade away by times,trust me.But her feelings towards you would not fade away in times.you both been together for 1year and 3months.It took times for her to forget you.I know she cant forget about you eventhough she said she would.Hearing her stories and her feelings towards you makes me felt Guilty for loving you.i shoudn't be loving you and you also shoudn't be loving me.it just ain't right for me.I Am Truly Sorry.I am scared you would do stupid things like you did today if i kept forcing you.I just dont know.I really dont know.I am so mean towards the people that loves me so much.we just cant be together.Eventhough she said she would be okay if we are together but i know deep inside her heart she was Damn Broken.If i go with you and accept you,i would have that feeling of guilty towards her,Alot! So,it is better if we stay friends right?I know its hard,but it is more hard for her for losing you and accepting that you loved someone else and that is me.OhMaGod! We loved each other but we cnt be together.Why is this happening..i cant lose you but i also cant hurt  the person that loves you more than i do.